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Let us now look at what stimulates or at one time stimulated you to achieve, so that you can write that down and have it to review. This brings me to an illustration of an iceberg’s appearance in the ocean. I had used this illustration in a few workshops in ‘Parenting with Teenagers’. The objective was to look at the various issues experienced by both groups—the parents and the teenagers. I will attempt to adopt the illustration here, to create a word picture.
Imagine for a while, if you may, that there in front of you, about one mile ahead, sits an iceberg on the waters. You could see its peak, majestically sitting against the back drop of the grayish blue sky. Now keep that image in your mind.
Many times when I think of the iceberg, I think of the sad event involving the Titanic ship striking an iceberg and sinking, taking with it many lives. But this iceberg can teach each one of us, many valuable lessons in life. One lesson I will like to share with you, has to do with the parts of the iceberg that is visible and invisible; you will always see what is out of the water, if that is what you are looking for.
Many times, what we seldom look at, is what is below the surface of a person’s success. The challenging work, the grit and the loyal obedience to methods of success does not always readily come to mind. What made them able to follow through on their dreams when all else seem to be failing all around them? When their own friends were walking away from them and saying that they are a fool to continue on this path, this journey to their unattainable dreams. Perhaps you have experienced this in your life.
Possibly you have heard the word ‘no’ so many times, or the words ‘you are a failure’, so often, that it is as though you have begun to believe it. In reading this book you would have picked up, anything we continue to do repetitively become a habit to us. It is no different when we allow ourselves to start being molded by the negative words of others. Self-doubt enters the mind affecting thinking, feelings, and subsequently our behaviors. But I want you to look at your life, and see that there is much you have already done, and yet more that you can contribute too.
See in your mind’s eye, that at one time you had a focus, a single belief that the work you are putting in will have results. This is the critical point at which you must find once more your passion, that dream that once stimulated you to get up early and work at it. There can be no longer any justification you can use in your life to say ‘you can’t’. This is a critical moment. The time is now, for you to make that change. You have much to desire which is below the surface, once more show your true potential by getting back on the course that leads to your destination. Iyanla Vanzant once said, “Where in your life are you offering excuses for not standing in your power? I you ready to eliminate excuses today? Excuses are the means by which you avoid, deny, and resist the greatness you know yourself to be.” Once more, continue to make those steps to excellence. You have done it before.