Creating Rules in the Home for a Successful Family.

Ever had a situation in the home when you just don’t know what to do?  Maybe it has to do with your children not cleaning up after themselves or playing football in the dining area instead of outside.  Or perhaps they got up each morning on the weekend, and all they did from the start of the day to late evening is look at television, played video games or talk on the cell phone with their friends.

Oh, there we go all hands are raise.

Come on, you know you want to raise your hands.  Ah, that’s it, there we go!

Well, there is nothing simple about getting your children to do chores or go read a story book or something like that when they want to do the total opposite.  But here is something you could try to modify the behaviour of your children.

Use written rules.

  1. Be clear: If the rule is for the child to pick up their toys after playing with it in the play area, then it needs to say so.  By saying move your toys could mean to the child, kick your toys to the corner of the room in a heap.  So the written rule should speak to where you want them to put their toys and how they should arrange them as well.
  2. All must be following rules: Children learn by association, social learning, observing for instance.  If parents also have some written rules for themselves, then when the child observes the parent adhering to these, they will be more incline to follow the ones they have.
  3. Involve the child in developing rules: As adults, we all want to know that we are a part of something that pertains to us. Children are no different.  When you are making the rule for your home get their contributions.  They may think of something that you may not have thought about if you are creating the rules for them.  So get their views.
  4. Put rules in a place all can see: It is important that the children be able to have the visual benefit of the rules you make with them. So put it on a sheet of flip chart paper or wide enough so it can be easily seen by all.

So use rules in the home to see your family start building positive habits, or use these rules to reinforce what can be build upon.

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Author: Allick Delancy

WE ALL HAVE THE POTENTIAL TO DO GREAT THINGS IN LIFE! The areas of education, psychology, motivation, behavioural coaching, management of stress, anger and conflict, has always interested Allick Delancy. For this reason, over the years he has conducted research in these fields and has experienced great success in writing, lecturing and assisting other persons to develop their fullest potentials. He has obtained a Bachelors of Science in Behavioural Sciences with an emphasis in Psychology and Sociology. Allick Delancy also earned a Masters of Arts degree in Educational Psychology, with general emphasis in Learning, Development, Testing and Research from Andrews University. He has worked in the field of community mediation, education--conducting life skills training (for students, teachers and parents), as well as conducting Functional Behavioural Assessments and developing Functional Behavioural Plans. He also lectures at the Bachelors degree level in Early Childhood and Family Studies, Leadership and Management and co-wrote an undergraduate course in social work.

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