What PTSD Means to Me

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It’s PTSD Awareness Month, so let’s go over what that means.

I am one of many who suffers from Post Traumatic Stress Disorder, a.k.a. PTSD.

I say this to someone and most of the time they reply, “What?”

It means a trauma happened, and even though it happened it the past, the footprint it left in your mind is so severe that any time conditions appear to be the same as during that trauma, usually described as “when a trigger happens,” your body undergoes extreme stress and expresses that stress in a physical and/or mental reaction. Sometimes even having to recall the events unexpectedly can be all the trigger you need.

The mind is a beautiful, crazy thing.

If you still don’t get it, think of this: Ever spoken about something attached to any kind of strong emotion and felt that same emotion almost exactly as when the event happened? How…

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HOW TO LISTEN SO OTHERS WILL TALK.

Pair of Northern FlickersI once attended a seminar in conflict management, and was given a handout dealing with the topic: HOW TO LISTEN SO OTHERS WILL TALK.
Five (5) strategies were given and I will like to summarize them and share them with you:
1. Maintain Eye Contact: looking at someone while they are talking gives them the impression that your attention is on them.
2. Positive Body Posture: facing someone while listening conveys a sense of trust, openness and availability.
3. Use Of Silence And Non-Verbal Language: intelligent silence, reaffirming nods, smile, a frown etc. are powerful motivators to someone talking and signals a person to continue talking.
4. Focus On Feelings: while being selective to relevant facts, never forget the underlying feeling (fear, guilt, joy etc) of a person.
5. Facial Expressions: our facial expressions (frowns, smiles, boredom, horror etc.) communicates acceptance, judgment, rejection or encouragement.

I hope that these were beneficial to you.

Watch that intention

Life's Paradoxes

Dear little blog,

An intention towards someone or a situation is an interesting topic to unpack for today’s discussion. In referring to the definition, the word means an action that has an aim or a purpose but what is not considered is its paradoxical essence.

Most people justify their actions according to being a good person in demonstrating some form of goodwill. When someone asks you why you decided to compliment that person, one would simply reply, “because I wanted to make someone’s day”. Good intentions are a form of agenda, not as bad in comparison to an individual who has suspicious or self-gaining motives. Paradoxically, good intentions can become flawed when a person misinterprets another person’s intention. For example, you decide to compliment your parent’s appearance or characteristic and then she/he jumps to conclusion that you are asking for money. Whether you were asking for money or not, disappointment…

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When is the right time to start working on my dreams?

If you are looking to have the perfect time in your life to work on your dream, you will not find it.  You have to start working from somewhere.  Plan, develop a strong believe that you will succeed, then work at it. Even if failure prevails, it will only be momentary. Have faith and courage in the things you do today, and you will see yourself prevailing.
All the best!

Success Secrets Revealed: Quickly Planning Your Dreams And Living A Happier Life.

 

Please click here:

http://www.amazon.com/Success-Secrets-Revealed-Developing-productivity-ebook/dp/B00YFZOHDC/ref=la_B00YGC893S_1_1?s=books&ie=UTF8&qid=1434163367&sr=1-1

This is a book I wrote and placed on amazon kindle.  I am encouraging persons to purchase a copy and to leave an honest review.  This is the first book I have written and self published.  And so, I am quite excited to hear what you think and to have your support, by you obtaining a copy.

Thanks very much!

The following is the introduction to the book I uploaded on amazon.com:

INTRODUCTION

I would like to thank you for obtaining a copy of this book and choosing to read it. This means that you have looked at your life, recognizing the need for assistance in taking your dreams or goals to another level. Possibly you are seeking information on how to rekindle that joy you once felt, when you considered that specific dream you had. Whatever the situation, you have made a conscious decision to make changes, or to learn more about the secret of how to be more productive with regards to your interest; refusing to stay at a level of low productivity and mental stagnation.

It is my hope, that upon completion of reading this book, your productivity will grow. Further, it is my hope that your output increases significantly, to a point where you are even more motivated to go further in your contributions to society.
I want you to look at the various illustration, quotes, life examples and to learn from them. A high possibility exist, that you will mentally grow in the process.

Thinking of how I benefited from mentors, I will like in return, to assist others to be inspired to the point that you are motivated to action, knowing that great things are possible for you too.

Through the words in this book, I want to talk to you as I may never personally meet my readers. And so, at the end of your reading, I hope that you are satisfied and willing to share what you have learned with others.

It is the belief, that you can get excited to want to grow and change as you read the words of this book. I once spoke to a graduating class and told them that they must become as butterflies after the caterpillar stage. For if the caterpillar remains such, it will die, so too if we refuse to transform we will be left behind; anxious and left to die mentally, becoming extinct with all our ideas, dreams and visions. How sad this will be, as we will have robbed persons of the talents and abilities we had, but refused to share or develop on.

As we change negative, self defeating thinking and become more effective at making better choices and planning more skillfully, we will grow and prosper.

I desire the best for all of you!

You will also see the following on amazon.com:

successPlease click here:

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8 REASONS TO BUY THIS BOOK:

1. You will develop a willing mind to achieve your goals.
2. The book will assist you to pay 100% attention to discipline methods used by successful people.
3. You will learn how to manage your activities given the time available to you.
4. You will gain insight into you own talents and skills and what you should do to prosper when met with a limitation.
5. You will learn the secret to increase productivity.
6. Learn the purpose of self evaluation.
7. The book will teach you how to create an environment around you, to have success in your life.
8. You will learn how to develop reflective practice techniques.

TABLE OF CONTENTS:

1. KNOWING MYSELF
2. BECOME A FRIEND OF WRITING
3. CREATE THE ENVIRONMENT TO SUCCEED
4. FORMING GOOD HABITS
5. SELF-EVALUATION