Brief Solution Focused Intervention Family Meeting: The Greatest Family Meetings You Ever Had. (Positive Parenting)

Solution focused brief therapy techniques are really designed to assist persons to find effective solutions to problems and in the shortest possible time.

Therefore Solution Focused Therapy, in family meetings can greatly assist family members to work proactively and quickly find solutions together.

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Describe the problem.
Identify the extent of the problem.
Family interaction meetings.
Comfortable atmosphere and space
Materials needed
Develop an agenda
Meeting reminders

5 Soft Skills to Teach This Year

With our continued shift to a technology driven society, few days go by that I don’t have a conversation with someone concerned about “today’s kids’ ” lack of “Soft Skills.” As the mother of 2 of these aptly named “GEN Z” babies…I can understand the worry. As an adult who has simply adapted to the culture, not grown up in it, I often find myself buried in my mobile phone rather than having an actual conversation. I’ve even recently learned a “wear your ear buds to avoid conversation” trick when I’m exhausted…from my twelve year old.

Yet soft skills remain some of the most important things employers look for when hiring according to the Jobs Can Blog  .  As educators our job is to ensure our students are prepared for success when they leave our classrooms/schools. I wholeheartedly believe a HUGE portion of this success will increasing revolve around how well our schools teach students soft skills.

Here are 5 Soft Skills that are currently the “Most Often Looked for by Employers” (Jobs Can Blog) and some suggestions on how to incorporate them into your classrooms/schools this year:


  • Working together toward a common goal.
  • Functioning successfully in different team roles
  • Putting the “Team’s Success” before personal success

Classroom/School Translation

Admittedly, I was a student who cringed when the teacher would say we were “working in groups.” I would end up doing the entire project/assignment myself due to my Type A personality (among other things)! There was NO Teamwork in these groups.

Thankfully, today I can say I have seen group work done so well I would’ve asked for it when I was a student! The key to this awesome group work I’ve been has been 1) Assigning roles to each team member (which changes with each assignment/project) 2) Clear expectations of the duties to be performed by the student assigned each role 3) A system of checks/balances in place to ensure the group is functioning as a TEAM with each student staying on task with their role. GROUP WORK IS GREAT…but it takes A LOT of work on the front end to establish norms, systems, and behavioral expectations to make “Groups” into functioning TEAMS! Teaching successfully in groups is one of the more masterful arts of our profession.

Another outstanding way to promote teamwork in your school is to encourage participation in an activity, club, or sport school-wide. (For example- Many schools require all entering Freshman to participate in at least one activity.) Increased social activities along with the group activities/teamwork are great ways to build soft skills in even the most introverted student. These can be done during an “activity” period in the day, during excess lunch or recess time, or even after school (if that’s the only option).

         2) Decision-Making

  • Making a choice based on evidence gathered
  • Being definitive…based on goals

Classroom/School Translation

Allowing students to choose from a variety of assignment types to show mastery of a skill is a great way to cause students to begin to critically examine their individual decision-making. Instead of “just doing what my friend does” students begin to look at what they would really prefer to do or what allows them to show they have mastered the skill in the most efficient (fastest and best) way.

Another example is providing students “student voice” within the school. Give them spots on committees and other duties that require responsibility. This demands a huge amount of decision-making; 1) are they willing to do it 2) decisions they have to make through the process This is a great way of giving students a “window” into the world of the adults in the school.

Soft Skills MATTER!

Soft Skills MATTER!

3) Communication

  • Talking face to face, making eye-contact while speaking, understanding social norms in various situations
  • Appropriately using Social Media for communication

Classroom/School Translation

Modeling appropriate ways to communicate can go a long way. Educators must assume students are not being taught these skills at home (most are not). Assignments that require interviewing adults, peer-to-peer questioning, and other communication via non-technology means (no emails please!) are great assignments for this. Make sure you do not assume students know how to do properly do this (they usually don’t); provide live examples for them.

Telephone (land line & cell) conversation etiquette is something that needs to be taught. What you should or should not say, text, or post to social media is a very important piece of information that can impact your students’ futures long after their lives in school.

As a school why not train students to greet visitors and give tours. No better way of learning communication skills than actually putting them to use in an important setting.


4) Planning & Prioritizing

  • Scheduling for optimum production over time
  • Doing what is most urgent first then following with items in order of importance

Classroom/School Translation

Educators have a great opportunity to scaffold students’ abilities to plan & prioritize. Long-term goals provided at the beginning of a class that have multiple components and will not be due until far into the term are a perfect example.

For younger students, allowing them to prioritize what needs to be done first in a project versus giving them step-by-step directions is a great way of building students’ prioritizing skills.

As a school it’s important to plan and prioritize and your students can be part of this. Student leaders can maintain an activity schedule they create among the different clubs and activities in conjunction with school administration. Along with planning and prioritization…this also requires the other soft skills we’ve already discussed.

5) Research Skills

  • Finding information from a variety of sources
  • Ensuring information is truthful & meets actual research needs
  • Ability to cite research

Classroom/School Translation

Long gone are the days of the card catalogue and the bound encyclopedia from our students’ research repertoire. Teachers are now responsible for instructing students on how to navigate “the Web” for their research needs.

Students must understand the difference between a credible source on the Web and one that may not be credible as well as where to go to find each. Along with this tall task we also must make sure our students understand the importance of citing works and how-to do this when using electronic sources. Thankfully, there have been several tools created to make this simpler.

As a school, moving to e-portfolios that require students to keep a sampling of their work for each term (with various different specifications for different schools) makes great sense. A requirement like this would not only provide evidence your students had appropriate research skills and were applying them in their classroom; it would also show the growth of these skills over time.


Stop Bad Behavior Creating Healing For Challenging and Bizarre Children Part 2

The Importance of Teamwork in Families


Allick’s comment:

In the family circle, regardless of the composition of your family, working together as a team is very important to successful family living. I will like you to read this article and seek to implement any of the strategies which you might not yet be using in your family.

The Importance of Teamwork in Families

Family members who work together can help balance each others’ strengths and weaknesses and bring everyone closer together, reports the University of Illinois Extension. Parents who work as a team have a positive impact on their children’s emotions and relationships. Kids who work as a team can increase their sibling bond, tend to watch out for each other and want to help and take care of one another.
Working together makes each member of your family feel good, notes the Students Against Destructive Decisions. Teamwork increases good feelings for both the helper…

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Be the Person Your Company Needs–Not the One Being Shown the Door

By Peter Economy

 When we present great value to our company, we will have the power to influence the path our career takes and the decisions that will impact it.
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Ines Temple, president of LHH-DBM Peru and LHH Chile, is passionate about the importance of developing a strong personal brand by becoming a strategic resource for your employer. Here Ines shares exactly what becoming a strategic resource to an organization means, and how to become indispensible.

We all know that organizations are constantly changing. They change either because they are doing well and want to be better, or because they are not doing well and need to improve.

With every change, organizations must arrange and rearrange their executive staff. They change managers and heads of department, and people are redirected to other areas. New skills and different teams are required. And, sometimes, others are let go.

If we like the company we work for and what we do there–or if we really need this job in particular and can’t afford to lose it–it is critical to be considered a strategic resource to the company. Being a strategic resource means becoming a valued key player within the organization–appreciated, and hopefully deemed essential to the progress of the firm. When this happens, the company will want to keep us around even when there is change on the horizon. And, above all, they make it a priority to retain our services and ensure that we are happy at work because they don’t want to lose us.

When we present great value to an organization, we will have the power to influence the path our career takes and the decisions that will impact it. Being a strategic resource to the company we work for gives us an increased sense of security, improves our employability, and adds value to our personal brand.

We have to stay up-to-date and competitive and never give in to arrogance or self-indulgence. At the same time, it is critical that we maintain our knowledge and skills, and keep our expertise current at all times while pushing ourselves to come up with new ideas. We should always keep a list of well-measured accomplishments–those that demonstrate our ability to deliver results and that add value to the organization.

What do we have to do to be considered a strategic resource to the company? This involves both a life and a career choice. The key to becoming a strategic resource is making it into a personal challenge with a clear purpose, and also one that can be measured. You might say, “But setting out to be a strategic resource is not enough.” True, but it is most important to take that first step, to make that vital shift in attitude. It means aiming to be a major support to the boss, a key member of the team–the person that the organization feels they need in order to reach their goals. It implies developing an attitude of service, collaboration, always wanting to make a difference, giving our best, and always pushing to do things better.

In his book, It’s a Big World and There’s Lots to Be Done, the founder and chairman of Daewoo, Kim Woo-Choong, tells the story of a company challenged by the shortage of space in ships to transport its products. Often, their shipments were returned to the dock due to a lack of space in the ships holds. The company sent three of its employees to dispatch a shipment, and each did things differently. The first employee escorted the goods to the port and left relaxed because his work was done–he had taken the cargo to the port of embarkation. The second employee would not leave the port until he was sure that the cargo had been properly loaded into the ship’s hold. Only then would he leave, proud of having gone that extra mile. But, the third employee would not leave the port until he was sure that the ship had been weighed with the cargo on board, as he understood how important this was in order to leave the port. Different attitude? Yes. Different results? Absolutely.

Think about whether or not you are a strategic resource within your organization as this third employee was. Do you have the attitude, the clarity of mind, and the determination to become a strategic resource? Make a commitment to yourself to be one every step of your professional life, every day, and at all times.

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